What is Respect?
“Respect, also called esteem, is a positive feeling or action shown towards someone or something considered important or held in high esteem or regard. It conveys a sense of admiration for good or valuable qualities. It is also the process of honoring someone by exhibiting care, concern, or consideration for their needs or feelings”.(Wikipedia).
These will Cost You Your Respect.
Respect they say is something that must be earned and not demanded. Women generally have a greater chance of facing disrespect, not only as a result of gender inequality or the masculine nature of our society, but also because of certain things that they do consciously or unconsciously.
1.Demanding More and Giving Less.
This is often common for women who depend on their spouses or partners for money, material things and their livelihood for short. Its okay to be spoiled and gifted stuff by your part, but being over demanding and not doing anything in return to reciprocate that generosity from the other person will definitely cost you your respect.
Having an attitude is one that is unpredictable due to a distorted personality is not good. If you treat people in a respectable, kind, caring, and friendly manner behind closed doors, or because you want something from them, but belittle or ignore them in the presence of others, they are likely to loose respect for you.
3. Lies Telling.
When you lie about everything and anything, you will simply loose respect in front of other people. No one pays attention to a habitual liar or untrusted person. Beating about the bush, telling half truths, and being vague will scar your reputation.
4. Over Apologising.
Aim to take responsibility for your wrong doing and move on to do the right thing. However, apologising everyday and all day will do your reputation no good. If people have the impression that your word holds no value and instead of doing what is expected of you, you spend your time apologising, they’ll have no respect for you.
When people cannot trust that you will keep your word, they loose respect for you. The most valuable thing that humans have is their “word”. If you promise to do something or be somewhere at a particular time and dishonour that commitment, you mostly would lose respect.
Violating Other People’s Boundaries.
Everyone has a breaking point in their life. If you ignore other people’s boundaries, and fail to treat them accordingly, you’ll find yourself on the wrong side of the rope and end up being told off, resented, and disrespected for that.
Dressing in a way that is likely to shock or offend people is called indecent dressing. When you go about exposing sexual parts of your body and looking like a sex worker, you most likely are going to be disrespected. If you want to be addressed respectfully, you have to be dressed as such. Your choice of clothes and how you put them together gives out a lot of information about your persona. You can read Who Are Your Friends? for more details on that.
The public display of anger and such a behaviour illustrated on the photograph above will stripe respect off you. You may walk into a space dressed like a queen, but the moment you get into quarrels, physical fights and any outright misbehavior, you are likely to loose some of the respect people had for you. If a situation is getting heated, its best to walk away from it, and address it with a calmer head.
Always remember that you are a brand, and your personality is your biggest resource. If you want to be financially independent, you have to consider respect and trust as critical success factors . When people loose respect for you, they are unlikely to employ you, to do business with you or even associate themselves with you. With such an issue, how do you expect to network with people in order to Use Your Girl Power To Build Your Empire.