This is my IKIGAI…
LIFE threw me a curve ball in 2006. One that I didn’t expect.
Imagine going to bed on land and waking up in the middle of a deep blue sea full of sharks, ready to pound on your flesh.
That may sound metaphorical, but indeed the story of my life..
At only 16.. fresh and attractive to predatory men who wanted to suck the juice out of my youthfulness and spit me out at will, what was I supposed to do?!
You bet my survival instincts kicked in. Right on time. Some say my daddy was watching over me from from above.
Well I say God saw my struggles, discipline and willingness to survive without compromising all the values that my dad and mom had instilled in me, and God extended a strong arm of help out to me. ” My daughter, hold on tight” So did I..
You see, in life, things will happen for you not to you. Although I didn’t understand this when I was going through tough times, I eventually did when the storm was over.
My first son is only 9 years old but he has heard me tell my story so many times to young people that I coach.
And one day, out of the blue, he said to me ” mummy I think your daddy’s death led you to your purpose. That struck me right between the eyes and I became teary almost immediately.
He hugged me tight and said “mummy I love you, and you’re the best mummy in the whole wide world. I am so so proud of you and everything that you do for me and my brother and for all the young people.”
Boyyy was he right… My dad’s tragic and painful death may have been the most traumatic event in my life, but it forced me to woman-up and to grow, and to develop resilience, tenacity and tack.
In fact, I was forced to device strategies that not only allowed me to live by the day, but to thrive.
Now, as a young woman in Africa, that was a really tough call. Navigating treacherous waters… (my young African women will relate immediately).
The good news however is that I made it to the shores alive. Though with bruises of brutal attempts to swallow me up, I survived!
And guess what, I didn’t dust myself up and walk away. Screaming thank God I made it alive, everyone else sort your self out…
Nope, I did not…
Although I wanted to leave my past behind me so badly, I was strongly convicted by the words of Dalai Lama “Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.”
And Denzel Washington eloquently put it this way. ” We should not only aspire to live, but aspire to make a difference.”
So what then did Ms Syl do?
I turned around and walked right on back towards the sea. It was time to save as many other people from the evil sharks of this world.
And for me, the number one fundamental strategy was show them what their true potential was by
* Breaking their limiting beliefs
* Destroying their blame lists
* Embracing a success mindset
* working towards their personal development and
* gaining financial independence
These are the 5 things I did every single day to break free from victimhood, slavery mindset and the pain of dependence.
In an attempt to reach as many young people as possible, I created the youngandindependent.com blog, podcast and social media handles.
I started sharing everything I knew with anyone who cared to listen.
I really didn’t know what difference or impact I could make, until I started receiving testimonials of my teachings.
This evening, I got another one that moved me to tears.
There’s a power behind gratitude indeed!
And this right Whatsapp screenshot right here is my IKIGAI…
My purpose and raison d’etre. This is what crave to do for the rest of my life. To Set as many people free…
I want to help all young people. And most importantly, I want to help young women who are ;
– struggling to find their voice.
– who feel lost with motherhood
-Who feel stuck
-who want to earn their own
If that’s you, I invite you to join my private Facebook community https://www.facebook.com/groups/642342270695344/?ref=share ( Balanced Stay-At-Home Moms)
HAPPY A BLESSED WEEK AHEAD