No Woman Is Ugly.

by Syl Tamanda

I am sure you have heard someone say the words ” that woman is ugly or that lady is not pretty enough”.

A woman must not have long eyelashes, or the hourglass shape or even the pouty lips that are the stereotypes of beauty. By the same token, a man may not be broad-chested or tall dark and handsome, as we have often read in romance novels (wink). But as you will soon realise, one of my famous quotes “beauty is only skin deep” has never been truer.

Definition of Ugly.

The word Ugly is defined as , “very unattractive or unpleasant to look at; offensive to the sense of beauty; displeasing in appearance” (Dictionary.com).

Beauty Myths.

Growing up, I often heard adults around me quip…”if you see a dashing woman on the arms of a plain man (you can read that as ugly) or vice versa, please know not to wonder, for after-all you do not know what they talk about in private”. This in a way drives home a point!

Further, it is not uncommon to see the most eligible bachelors and young women settle down with partners who do not always exude the same sort of “beauty” as we know it.


Could this therefore be suggestive of the fact that the sort of beauty that young people strive to display is misplaced? That is, the one which has seen an explosion in the use of imported hair, plastic surgeries and the application of all types of cosmetic products?

Ms Oprah Winfrey.

The rise of Oprah from rags to the richest woman in the world is a story that has been hugely celebrated.

Despite being a billionaire Ms Oprah Winfrey wasn’t born with a silver spoon in her mouth. She grew up in extreme poverty on a pig farm and even slept on the front porch as a young girl. Oprah became the richest woman in the world by virtue of her intellect, persistency, discovering her true gift from God. Her resilience and self confidence have propelled her to success, from being nicknamed a “sack girl”, she now has an entire team of stylists who get her all dolled up in gorgeous, red carpet-ready gowns, and her work closet at Harpo Studios in Chicago is filled to the brim with designers duds.

Patricia Bright.

 

Born in London to immigrant parents from Nigeria, Patricia and her sister went through a hard knock life. She Patricia said ” I was always referred to as the ugly friend”, and it affected my self confidence”. Patricia’s mum was a cleaner and they would often follow their mum to clean offices in London at 4am in the morning before heading to school. However, her humble beginnings were a stepping stone into her success. Patricia worked hard at school, graduated as an accounting student, worked in the financial industry before deciding to become a youtuber and social media influencer full time. Today at 34, she is worth $1.2million, a dazzling beauty, a mum, and a role model to many of her followers.

 

Ms Viola Davis.

According to her story to glamour magazine, Ms Davis remembers digging through a dumpster and being always hungry at school, ashamed and unable to tap into her potential. However, on the back of her love for acting in high school, she was awarded a scholarship to study theatre at Rhode Island College and to attend the Juilliard School in New York City. Today, Ms Davis is a critically acclaimed actress of film, television, and theatre and has won rave reviews for her multitude of substantial and intriguingly diverse roles. Audiences across the United States and internationally admire her for her work. At 55, she is worth $15million and works tirelessly to give back to the hungry children in her community.

 

 

Looking at the revolutionary change in these women; Michele Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Patricia Bright and Viola Davis, as youngsters, and as more mature women, you could argue that as in the Curious Case of Benjamin Button they have all changed tremendously over the years. And even though they are both in their 50s/60s with the exception of Ms Bright who is in her 30s. They look good!

It is true that there is an element of affordability which is associated with the way these great women look. But you must look beyond that perspective to understand that;

  • Self assurance
  • Confidence
  • Achievement
  • Peace of mind
  • Generosity of spirit
  • Manners and etiquette
  • Intellect and
  • purpose

are all attributes that have contributed to making these women glow beyond what any expensive clothes or makeup can ever achieve. These women are beautiful, not because of any special physical endowment which they may have, but because of their characters. And so they will attract the best partners. Because a partnership which comes with these assets is far more appealing that one which comes with the liability of expensive cosmetic habits.

So remember, your financial independence is the ultimate sex appeal!

 

Recommended books for You to Read and Grow.

Ms Oprah Winfrey.

The rise of Oprah from rags to the richest woman in the world is a story that has been hugely celebrated.

Despite being a billionaire Ms Oprah Winfrey wasn’t born with a silver spoon in her mouth. She grew up in extreme poverty on a pig farm and even slept on the front porch as a young girl. Oprah became the richest woman in the world by virtue of her intellect, persistency, discovering her true gift from God. Her resilience and self confidence have propelled her to success, from being nicknamed a “sack girl”, she now has an entire team of stylists who get her all dolled up in gorgeous, red carpet-ready gowns, and her work closet at Harpo Studios in Chicago is filled to the brim with designers duds.

Patricia Bright.

 

Born in London to immigrant parents from Nigeria, Patricia and her sister went through a hard knock life. She Patricia said ” I was always referred to as the ugly friend”, and it affected my self confidence”. Patricia’s mum was a cleaner and they would often follow their mum to clean offices in London at 4am in the morning before heading to school. However, her humble beginnings were a stepping stone into her success. Patricia worked hard at school, graduated as an accounting student, worked in the financial industry before deciding to become a youtuber and social media influencer full time. Today at 34, she is worth $1.2million, a dazzling beauty, a mum, and a role model to many of her followers.

 

Ms Viola Davis.

According to her story to glamour magazine, Ms Davis remembers digging through a dumpster and being always hungry at school, ashamed and unable to tap into her potential. However, on the back of her love for acting in high school, she was awarded a scholarship to study theatre at Rhode Island College and to attend the Juilliard School in New York City. Today, Ms Davis is a critically acclaimed actress of film, television, and theatre and has won rave reviews for her multitude of substantial and intriguingly diverse roles. Audiences across the United States and internationally admire her for her work. At 55, she is worth $15million and works tirelessly to give back to the hungry children in her community.

 

 

Looking at the revolutionary change in these women; Michele Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Patricia Bright and Viola Davis, as youngsters, and as more mature women, you could argue that as in the Curious Case of Benjamin Button they have all changed tremendously over the years. And even though they are both in their 50s/60s with the exception of Ms Bright who is in her 30s. They look good!

It is true that there is an element of affordability which is associated with the way these great women look. But you must look beyond that perspective to understand that;

  • Self assurance
  • Confidence
  • Achievement
  • Peace of mind
  • Generosity of spirit
  • Manners and etiquette
  • Intellect and
  • purpose

are all attributes that have contributed to making these women glow beyond what any expensive clothes or makeup can ever achieve. These women are beautiful, not because of any special physical endowment which they may have, but because of their characters. And so they will attract the best partners. Because a partnership which comes with these assets is far more appealing that one which comes with the liability of expensive cosmetic habits.

So remember, your financial independence is the ultimate sex appeal!

 

Recommended books for You to Read and Grow.

Did you know that cosmetics are one of the biggest imported products into Africa?. In 2019, Africa imported beauty and hair products worth 1.6 billion dollars (source; OEC).

 

This is not to say that you should not be especially concerned about your personal appearance. We at the YBI recommend you to take pride in your appearance, both to feel good in your own skin but also because it could be the X factor that gets you through the door on your road to financial independence. However, you should be aware that this outward beauty is ephemeral and you will need to dig deeper within yourself to water and prune that inner longer lasting beauty in order to flourish.

 

Discussing Popular Women Who Are Aging Like Fine Wine.

 

Ex First Lady Michele Obama.

What brought Barrack and Michele Obama together was their academic and professional lives. Barrack is said to have been drawn to Michele’s quiet self confidence, and fierce intelligence. And through her tenacity, she’s been able to challenge Barrack and push him to fulfil his highest potential by becoming the first black President of the United States of America.

The pictures below tell a thousand words about her evolution and her glow.

Ms Oprah Winfrey.

The rise of Oprah from rags to the richest woman in the world is a story that has been hugely celebrated.

Despite being a billionaire Ms Oprah Winfrey wasn’t born with a silver spoon in her mouth. She grew up in extreme poverty on a pig farm and even slept on the front porch as a young girl. Oprah became the richest woman in the world by virtue of her intellect, persistency, discovering her true gift from God. Her resilience and self confidence have propelled her to success, from being nicknamed a “sack girl”, she now has an entire team of stylists who get her all dolled up in gorgeous, red carpet-ready gowns, and her work closet at Harpo Studios in Chicago is filled to the brim with designers duds.

Patricia Bright.

 

Born in London to immigrant parents from Nigeria, Patricia and her sister went through a hard knock life. She Patricia said ” I was always referred to as the ugly friend”, and it affected my self confidence”. Patricia’s mum was a cleaner and they would often follow their mum to clean offices in London at 4am in the morning before heading to school. However, her humble beginnings were a stepping stone into her success. Patricia worked hard at school, graduated as an accounting student, worked in the financial industry before deciding to become a youtuber and social media influencer full time. Today at 34, she is worth $1.2million, a dazzling beauty, a mum, and a role model to many of her followers.

 

Ms Viola Davis.

According to her story to glamour magazine, Ms Davis remembers digging through a dumpster and being always hungry at school, ashamed and unable to tap into her potential. However, on the back of her love for acting in high school, she was awarded a scholarship to study theatre at Rhode Island College and to attend the Juilliard School in New York City. Today, Ms Davis is a critically acclaimed actress of film, television, and theatre and has won rave reviews for her multitude of substantial and intriguingly diverse roles. Audiences across the United States and internationally admire her for her work. At 55, she is worth $15million and works tirelessly to give back to the hungry children in her community.

 

 

Looking at the revolutionary change in these women; Michele Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Patricia Bright and Viola Davis, as youngsters, and as more mature women, you could argue that as in the Curious Case of Benjamin Button they have all changed tremendously over the years. And even though they are both in their 50s/60s with the exception of Ms Bright who is in her 30s. They look good!

It is true that there is an element of affordability which is associated with the way these great women look. But you must look beyond that perspective to understand that;

  • Self assurance
  • Confidence
  • Achievement
  • Peace of mind
  • Generosity of spirit
  • Manners and etiquette
  • Intellect and
  • purpose

are all attributes that have contributed to making these women glow beyond what any expensive clothes or makeup can ever achieve. These women are beautiful, not because of any special physical endowment which they may have, but because of their characters. And so they will attract the best partners. Because a partnership which comes with these assets is far more appealing that one which comes with the liability of expensive cosmetic habits.

So remember, your financial independence is the ultimate sex appeal!

 

Recommended books for You to Read and Grow.

Did you know that cosmetics are one of the biggest imported products into Africa?. In 2019, Africa imported beauty and hair products worth 1.6 billion dollars (source; OEC).

 

This is not to say that you should not be especially concerned about your personal appearance. We at the YBI recommend you to take pride in your appearance, both to feel good in your own skin but also because it could be the X factor that gets you through the door on your road to financial independence. However, you should be aware that this outward beauty is ephemeral and you will need to dig deeper within yourself to water and prune that inner longer lasting beauty in order to flourish.

 

Discussing Popular Women Who Are Aging Like Fine Wine.

 

Ex First Lady Michele Obama.

What brought Barrack and Michele Obama together was their academic and professional lives. Barrack is said to have been drawn to Michele’s quiet self confidence, and fierce intelligence. And through her tenacity, she’s been able to challenge Barrack and push him to fulfil his highest potential by becoming the first black President of the United States of America.

The pictures below tell a thousand words about her evolution and her glow.

Ms Oprah Winfrey.

The rise of Oprah from rags to the richest woman in the world is a story that has been hugely celebrated.

Despite being a billionaire Ms Oprah Winfrey wasn’t born with a silver spoon in her mouth. She grew up in extreme poverty on a pig farm and even slept on the front porch as a young girl. Oprah became the richest woman in the world by virtue of her intellect, persistency, discovering her true gift from God. Her resilience and self confidence have propelled her to success, from being nicknamed a “sack girl”, she now has an entire team of stylists who get her all dolled up in gorgeous, red carpet-ready gowns, and her work closet at Harpo Studios in Chicago is filled to the brim with designers duds.

Patricia Bright.

 

Born in London to immigrant parents from Nigeria, Patricia and her sister went through a hard knock life. She Patricia said ” I was always referred to as the ugly friend”, and it affected my self confidence”. Patricia’s mum was a cleaner and they would often follow their mum to clean offices in London at 4am in the morning before heading to school. However, her humble beginnings were a stepping stone into her success. Patricia worked hard at school, graduated as an accounting student, worked in the financial industry before deciding to become a youtuber and social media influencer full time. Today at 34, she is worth $1.2million, a dazzling beauty, a mum, and a role model to many of her followers.

 

Ms Viola Davis.

According to her story to glamour magazine, Ms Davis remembers digging through a dumpster and being always hungry at school, ashamed and unable to tap into her potential. However, on the back of her love for acting in high school, she was awarded a scholarship to study theatre at Rhode Island College and to attend the Juilliard School in New York City. Today, Ms Davis is a critically acclaimed actress of film, television, and theatre and has won rave reviews for her multitude of substantial and intriguingly diverse roles. Audiences across the United States and internationally admire her for her work. At 55, she is worth $15million and works tirelessly to give back to the hungry children in her community.

 

 

Looking at the revolutionary change in these women; Michele Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Patricia Bright and Viola Davis, as youngsters, and as more mature women, you could argue that as in the Curious Case of Benjamin Button they have all changed tremendously over the years. And even though they are both in their 50s/60s with the exception of Ms Bright who is in her 30s. They look good!

It is true that there is an element of affordability which is associated with the way these great women look. But you must look beyond that perspective to understand that;

  • Self assurance
  • Confidence
  • Achievement
  • Peace of mind
  • Generosity of spirit
  • Manners and etiquette
  • Intellect and
  • purpose

are all attributes that have contributed to making these women glow beyond what any expensive clothes or makeup can ever achieve. These women are beautiful, not because of any special physical endowment which they may have, but because of their characters. And so they will attract the best partners. Because a partnership which comes with these assets is far more appealing that one which comes with the liability of expensive cosmetic habits.

So remember, your financial independence is the ultimate sex appeal!

 

Recommended books for You to Read and Grow.

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